self-discovery
04
Apr

Your Self-Discovery Journey Starts Here

Your journey of self-discovery will lead to a deeper connection with self and more valuable connections with those around you.

As human beings we seek connection. No, we crave it. We crave connection so that we feel a sense of belonging. From an early age we look for feedback from the outside world. We use that feedback to alter our behaviour or repeat it – depending on the type of feedback we receive. That behaviour could be good generating positive attention i.e. praise and connection from others, encouraging us to repeat that behaviour. Or that behaviour could be less fulfilling, generating less favourable feedback with negativity, perhaps even hostility, which then has us projecting something that isn’t all that true of us into the world, generating less favourable connections as we go. The tricky thing is, is that sometimes we get confused with who we are for other people, and what we really want – and this can lead to us being unfulfilled, unhappy, frustrated and not living the life we desire.

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You see, what we put out into the world, we get back. What we project is returned to us. And if we don’t give ourselves the opportunity to project from the heart of who we are, then we don’t stand a chance in firstly connecting with who we are, but also, connecting with others on levels of respect, loyalty, and the love and true belonging we so desire.

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If we seek a partner who is kind, compassionate, and loving, then guess what, that’s exactly what you have to project from your own inner force of energy. A person who knows themselves, who is connected to who they really are, what they’re capable of, and what they really, truly want in life is more likely to attract a partner who will compliment everything they seek and desire.

A person who is not connected to who they truly are is less likely to achieve that fulfilled sense of connection with another person, as the main source of their connection is hanging loose, swaying in the wind, waiting to be connected. And if you’re not willing to do the work and discover who you are and connect that loose end yourself to something solid within you, then the next person who comes along will be given that job, on your behalf, but on their terms.

Can you see where this is heading? Imagine giving someone else the autonomy to connect you with your worth, value, and purpose. Your true essence is not open for debate by anyone other than you. And there’s not one person in this world who can tell this story for you without you giving them some guidepost on what that is. And if you’re not willing to do that – they can literally shape you as they see fit. It’s a bit like giving someone your soul and saying ‘do what you like with it, make what you will’.

This sense of giving literally allows another person to mould you into something that pleases them. Which at some point will fundamentally not please you or serve your greater good.

Whether we’re talking about romantic relationships, friendships or even family relationships, knowing who you are is the very best way you can walk into a relationship and make a wholehearted connection.

Only when you connect with yourself on a deep level can you make valuable connections with other people.

So Why Do People Choose To Put Their Connection In The Hands Of Other People?

The term self-discovery will be lost on some people.

They may bark laughter at the expression and consider it new-age mumbo-jumbo.

Other people may have gone so long in not connecting to themselves that they’re scared of what they might find, and where it will lead when they look up and look around at the people surrounding them.

Some may be nervous of what others may think of them if they suddenly see their wife, sister, friend, mum behave differently.

And then there will be those, possibly just like you, you have come to realise that creating an inner connection with self is the next best thing you can do to step toward better relationships and a better quality of life, or simply just a better understanding of who you are and what makes you happy.

Each of these three scenarios hold immense value to anyone who has chosen to go on a journey of self-discovery.

So What Is The Best Way Of Achieving This Connection And Starting Your Journey Of Self-Discovery?

There are many ways you can embark on a journey of self-discovery – and it doesn’t have to be just one action – you can keep adding new ways and methods as your journey opens up and new opportunities present themselves.

You can attend a silent retreat. Being at one with your thoughts, with no access to the outside world, is a great way of learning to listen to yourself, and the deep desires of the heart – miles away from the typical responsibilities and commitments and the identity held for you by the outside world.

You can commit to immersing yourself in nature for an hour every day to power up your self-discovery. A special moment for you to be still with nature, leaving everything but you at home, as you become familiar with the voice you carry within you.

Or you can set out on the ultimate journey of self discovery and write a memoir. This is the powerhouse of igniting self-discovery and connection with the voice within you. It’s also an amazing opportunity to work through your experiences, reflect on actions (of your self and others) and see the shifts that took place which shaped you into the person you are today, and the person you’re becoming.

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Writing a memoir is an immensely powerful tool to help you uncover your deepest desires, your lost dreams (as well as your new ones) and will enable you to grab hold of that loose connection and fix it to the deepest, strongest part of your essence, ensuring that you and only you will be driving your connection and purpose from this very moment.

Imagine the Possibilities

Imagine the strength in confidence you will possess once you have connected with that special place within you which is solely yours for the taking.

Imagine the relationships you can create, attract and improve on from doing this magical work. Every aspect of your life can generate more meaning for you, if you’re connected with yourself first and foremost, before you connect with others.

Imagine the romantic partnership you can attract or improve on if your connection comes from a place of truth, integrity and knowing who you really are and what you really want.

And of course, being brave enough to reach for all of these important parts of a fulfilling life.

You have this power. You have always had this power. Maybe now is the time to hit the button. Take this power back in your own hands and connect with who you truly are.  Make the relationships in your life better. Make you life more fulfilling. Ignite purpose within you, and living a wholehearted life for yourself. These are the rewards of this amazing journey of self-discovery.

The world has never been more full of opportunities and support for those willing to discover who they truly are in order to bring more value to their lives and the people they care about.
The power’s in your hands, and always has been.
Are ready to take the reigns?
Respectfully your guide,
Cheryl
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